Dating Tips for Black Men From A Black Woman

With author Demetria L. LucasDon’t Waste Your Pretty preparing for its debut as a TV One movie, a resurgence in interest for the writer’s 2014 book, with the same name, has caused her to dust off hundreds of copies she had in storage and sell them online with her signature.

The former Essence relationships editor said that she’s made more sales of the book now than she did when it originally released, which according to her had great initial sales.

Lucas became the go-to-girl for relationship and dating advice after the success of her first book A Belle In Brooklyn, which was named after her popular blog.

For Don’t Waste Your Pretty, she took reoccurring questions and subjects from messages that she received from her fans and advice-seekers. She was able to compact over 30,000 questions into over 300-pages of her responses to the most common relationship-related problems that her readers wanted to know the answers.

And though a lot of her writings and advice is geared toward Black women, most of it can be applied to Black men as well. She even makes it a point to include them in on the fun because most of the problems that occur aren't a gender thing, but a bad communication (or lack of) and general ignorance sort of thing for both men and women.

For example, according to Lucas, the phrase “don’t waste your pretty” is a euphemism for women, and men, to stop giving away valuable resources and assets that they give to the wrong the partner, whether it’s their time, money, sex, affection, prayers, kind words, emotional support, and then some.