Summer is coming to a close and the world is trying to get back to normal. With people are going back to work and their children heading back to school, there is a lot of anxiety going around. We thought it would be a perfect time to focus on self care. This month, from services and products to help with self care to conversations surrounding mental health, we are tackling it all.
To kick off Self Care September, I spoke with celebrity life coach and author Pervis Taylor. We discussed his latest book Surthival Mode, which aims to bridge the gap in men between just surviving and getting by in life to ultimately thriving within their emotions, mental health and relationships with others and themselves. We also dissected how Black men dealt with emotions and trauma.
In his book, Surthrival Mode, Pervis talks about the (4) A's of Surthival Mode.
Acknowledgment, Acceptance, Articulation and Alchemy. Those are the four things that all of us, the men that I worked together with, as well as myself, that we use to get us towards a place of wholeness and thriving. So the book is taking men from just surviving in life to thriving within their emotions and their mental health and their wellbeing. People who read the book, you're going to learn tools on how to navigate through your emotions and your mental health and how to deal with trauma in a healthy way.
Pervis believes that Black men are most comfortable with showing anger and indifference.
The two emotions that Black men are most comfortable with displaying are anger and indifference. The thing about anger is that, that is the secondary emotion. The primary emotion is hurt. And underneath that hurt is disappointment and underneath that disappointment is an expectation that wasn't met.
He also says, "there is power in confession."
Only what you confess can be healed. There's data that shows that men speak on average 10,000 words a day. Women on average speak 30,000 words a day. Your healing is in your words.